What Kind of Books Do You Love?


I recently discovered the only podcast I ever get excited about: “What Should I Read Next?” with Anne Bogel. It’s a literary matchmaking show with lots of fun bookish conversation on the side. Anne asks her guests about three books they love, one book they don’t love, and what they’re currently reading, then makes suggestions on what they should pick up next.

It makes for fascinating literary discussions, and it’s such a great conversation starter in real life. My husband and I have discussed this about our adult reading lives and our childhood reading lives (our picks were somewhat different at different ages and stages). These have been some of my favorite conversations in our relationship to date.

I learned so much about what my husband looks for in a good read. He loves the Farseer Trilogy by Robin Hobb, Victor Hugo’s The Hunchback of Notre Dame, and a nonfiction work entitled, The Troubador’s Song: The Capture and Ransom of Richard the Lionheart. For him, he likes involved narratives that develop over the years between familiar characters within a richly-imagined culture.

Why on earth he listed Harry Potter as his book he didn’t love, I have no idea, as that series falls perfectly within those parameters. I’m still going after him to read Harry Potter. He stopped at the first book, a few chapters in, after scoffing at chocolate frogs and Bertie’s Every Flavor Beans — an absolutely ridiculous reason to quit a book, if you ask me.

But I’m biased, because the Harry Potter series definitely makes it into the “books I love” category. (I’m re-reading them this summer. They’re even better the second time around!) I adore The Help, by Kathryn Stockett — another perennial re-read. And the latest book that got me excited (and my husband teary) is The Care and Feeding of a Pet Black Hole, by Miranda Cuevas. A book I absolutely hated: Dietland, by Sarai Walker.

The common threads between all of these?

(1) They involve character development within a community — and by that, I don’t just mean that the characters are multi-faceted and grow as the story progresses. They learn about themselves and others through relationship — their biases, their strengths, their passions, their purpose — and we, the reader, learn about both the characters and the world by seeing different perspectives about the same events.

Though I’ve enjoyed plenty well-written novels in the first person tense, I generally don’t fall over myself to read books told in that way, especially if they focus too much on the interior life. The self is just too isolated of a viewpoint to truly understand the world. I’m too much of an interior person myself; exclusively reading another person’s interior thoughts gives me anxiety about human beings. But the self and the individual’s perspective make up part of the world, which is why I love books that combine different first person accounts (like The Help) or have a more omniscient narrator (as in Harry Potter).

(2) The authors slip in crucial plot points without fanfare. It drives me nuts when authors dramatize, over-describe, or frantically signal to pay attention to key moments. Books that do that often have underdeveloped villains and protagonists, as the villains are clearly marked as villains and the protagonists clearly aren’t villains, in a black-and-white sort of way.

I’m outgrowing the mystery genre itself, but I still appreciate plots that have you thinking you’ve figured it out and then dash your confidence in your judgment. J. K. Rowling does this exceptionally well. Re-reading her series, I find more and more information that seems like random fun facts at the moment but turn out to be critical points of information or key turning points in the series.

(3) These books are self-aware, even if their characters are not. I don’t mind reading about experiences and perspectives different from my own, or encountering dark or immoral elements, but I won’t get excited about any book lacking a strong moral core. The book needs to show awareness that the character’s perspective or actions are at least questionable or nuanced, if not downright destructive. Dietland failed on this account for me: it praised a violent feminist revolution and the protagonist’s hardening toward others, things I cannot get behind, things that weren’t exposed as destructive and wrong.

This is another reason why I dislike many first person accounts: I really have to like the narrator to stick with them for a whole book, and in order for me to like the narrator, she needs to be self-aware of her faults. If one of her flaws is that she isn’t self-aware, I won’t enjoy the narrative, no matter how accurate a reflection on the interior life it is. Books that drop hints that it’s okay to laugh at, dislike, be mad at, and get frustrated with even the main characters are my jam.

(4) There’s a foreign piece to the stories that initially peaks my interest — whether that’s a fantastical element, a well-described historical time period (like 1960’s Mississippi), another culture, or a character with a life experience completely different from my own.

(5) These books are wholistic. I was going to say realistic, but that often signals to people “dark, gritty, and hopeless.” While many perspectives fall within that depressing category, I think a wholistic view of life involves the dark, the gritty, the hopeless, and the humorous, the hopeful, and the quirky. Humans are weird and lovable and aggravating all at the same time. I love how Harry Potter, The Help, and The Care and Feeding of a Pet Black Hole all deal with deep, difficult subjects but still make me laugh and inspire me to keep living.

But these aren’t cheap laughs — they have heart and substance, which is why I have a difficult time getting through books by Roald Dahl or Lemony Snickett or the Eddie Dickens trilogy — dark humor and ridiculousness alone give me a literal headache. I need to cry and rejoice and believe as well as laugh.

To clarify, these are the kinds of books that I most often get excited about — that I re-read — that I rip through and then beg all my friends to read them. There are many, many other books that are exciting, well-written, and worth reading — that have changed my life, even — that don’t meet all these criteria. (The Hate U Give, by Angie Thomas is an example.) But when I’m looking for a book that I know I’ll enjoy, these are the kinds of books I turn to.

I no longer think in terms of “good” or “bad” books. (Okay, I do think some books are objectively awful.) That’s one thing Anne Bogel talks about often: just because a book isn’t for you doesn’t mean it’s a bad book. This changes throughout life, too. There are books I adored as a kid (and still do for nostalgia’s sake) that wouldn’t exactly fit every criterion above.

And it’s fascinating how two people can love the same book for different reasons. Many people love Harry Potter, for instance, but wouldn’t be remotely interested in reading the other two books I love. Myself, I don’t love Harry Potter for the fantasy genre, per se; there are many fantasy books that aren’t for me because they fail to meet the criteria I listed above.

If you enjoy the same kinds of books I do, check out some of my other recent favorites:

Hello, Universe, by Erin Entrada Kelly

Wonder, by R. J. Palacio

The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo, by Taylor Jenkins Reid

The Wizards of Once, by Cressida Cowell

The War That Saved My Life, by Kimberley Brubaker Bradley

When You Reach Me, by Rebecca Stead

The Inquisitor’s Tale, by Adam Gidwitz

Little Fires Everywhere, by Celeste Ng

Emma, by Jane Austen

What are three books you love and one you don’t? Have you identified the common threads between them? Do you have any suggestions for what I should read next?

P.S. Two of my favorite WSIRN episodes: an interview with Jen Hatmaker on “When your reading life is nothing like people expect” and a chat with Patience Randle about “The quest for the perfect coffeeshop read.”

20 thoughts on “What Kind of Books Do You Love?

  1. Jina Bazzar

    it’s hard to pick up a book you love, there are so many! and i, like your husband, never read HP, though i didn’t even start on a first page.
    It must be nice having someone your close to to discuss books. i’m jealous!


      • Jina Bazzar

        I never listened to a podcast either. I have virtual friends i talk book with, but no one close or face to face. +, i’m into fantasy, and most people i know – virtually – are into murder and detective stuff. I do like some murder and detective, if they have a touch of the paranormal. and i like some romance, though not anything that takes over the plot, unless it’s a romance novel (which i enjoy whether it’s fantasy or not). I think i picked Robin hob’s book once, but it didn’t catch me from the first, so i put it down.


  2. Rebekah

    Ohmygosh!! I love The Help, Harry Potter, and Emma! And The War that Saved My life? What a book. I need to check out some of these others!!


  3. Olga Fry

    What a great post! Not every book is for every person. I certainly love HP, the Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo, and Little Fires Everywhere, but I know quite a few people who are not interested in those books but we have others in common. (I do think some books are objectively awful, though, like coughTwilightcough).


    • Bailey Steger

      I wasn’t going to name names, especially since I haven’t read Twilight, but….yeah. Puke. :D

      I’m so excited to hear someone else enjoys Little Fires Everywhere and The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo! I haven’t even met anybody who’s read them, but they’re such great reads.


  4. villemezbrown

    I adore books and reading, so this post is right up my alley. There is a particular kind of relationship between characters that makes me feel good – kind of like a drug. I can read a book and be quite aware that it is objectively a bad book and still enjoy it if it gives me that fix. But the books I love – they have some element of that fix, but also interesting plot – a geeky or even obsessive level of detail about a particular topic is a plus, well-written, a snarky make me laugh out loud sense of humor, and something inspiring. Three books I love: The Martian – great exciting survival story, tons and tons of snark, and the whole world coming together to save one man. The Cardturner – humor, sacrifice, star-crossed love, and more about Bridge (the card game) than any normal person would ever want to know. The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time – weird, funny, and I relate to enough of the narrator’s perspective to make me slightly uneasy. On the surface this is a gimmick book, but underneath it is about loving someone even if you don’t understand them, even if they are flawed and make mistakes, even if they drive you crazy sometimes.

    Like your husband, I like the Farseer trilogy. I like most of Robin Hobb’s books. She is one of my favorite authors. I don’t love lots of books, but I have no problem dropping a book so I usually forget about them pretty quickly. My one-star reviews on goodreads tend to be books that I thought would redeem themselves or that are by authors I usually like. Bad and/or amateurish writing annoys me and my annoyance tends to increase the more of it I read. I read a lot of YA, fantasy, and soft sci-fi – very little romance and almost no pure mystery. But having said that, I just finished a romance and gave it four stars. lol


    • Bailey Steger

      I totally know what you mean about a particular relationship between characters! It’s true for me about certain characters too — no matter how stereotypical, I adore that kind of character. It just makes me happy.

      I didn’t know how to define “well-written” so I left it out of this post’s list, but yeah, I am super picky about that too. I recently read “The Selection,” which was such an awful book that I gleefully had to keep reading to see how bad it would get! ;)

      How do you feel about YA dystopias? I end up reading a lot without realizing what I’m picking up. Currently reading “The Darkest Minds.”

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      • villemezbrown

        I think the YA dystopia craze has gone on too long for me. I did read and love the Hunger Games trilogy. I liked Enclave and keep meaning to read the sequels but I never get around to it. There’s always something else I want to read more. Mostly I like to read YA realistic fiction because for me as an adult, the fact that it is about teenagers makes it removed enough from my own life that I get that escapism factor. When I actually was a teen I got my dystopia fix from Stephen King – The Stand, The Long Walk, Running Man – and things like The Giver.
        You are right that “well-written” is hard to define. If I find myself reading quotes aloud to friends and family or remembering a particular phrase weeks or months later, I consider that a well-written book, but also if I can fall into the story and feel like the characters are real people I know and the writing is so unobtrusive I almost forget I’m reading and just experience the story, that’s well-written too.


      • Bailey Steger

        Yes, I prefer YA realistic fiction. I think there are some fantastic YA authors in that “genre.”

        Those are the two ways I describe “well-written” too! It’s not merely about words; it’s also about plot and character….but words too. I don’t know. I can’t describe it, but I recognize it instantly.

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  5. MoMo @ Remnants of Wit

    What a great list! I especially agree with that bit about it being a relief to find out that you don’t have to like a main character if said character acts like a jerk, and how the book needs to be self aware even if the character isn’t. Emma is such a great example of both of those criteria–the book clearly exposes her flaws as flaws, even though she doesn’t realize them until the end, and she is rendered more loveable by the fact that Austen doesn’t try to force you to condone and accept all of her shortcomings. And The Inquisitor’s Tale is such a lovely example of characters growing in relation to their community (especially with all the different storytellers we encounter on the way)–I’m glad you enjoyed it. Thanks for this great post!


  6. Allison Caylor

    A post! A post about BOOKS! I’m happy.

    If I could only have three fictional books to read for the rest of my life, I would pick Jane Eyre, Anna Karenina, and Bleak House. I can rave about each one separately (they’re amazing in different ways), but I’ve never quite been able to pin down the common threads that draw me to them so much. Let’s see. They’reold. They’re long. They’re slow-paced. The main characters are female. They all have pronounced sad and/or dark elements to them, which strikes me as odd because I thought I preferred bright, happy books. But then, they all have beautiful, happy, sunny storylines in them as well and and wonderful endings (at least for some of the main characters). The characters and stories have a true ring to me, even though it could probably be said that all three are exaggerations of reality. The writing in Anna Karenina is astoundingly good; I suppose that’s true of the others too, though they both have dragging parts that you kind of have to get through and can be rambly.

    I’m sure the real uniting factor is that they all, somehow, speak to my soul. I don’t know what it is, but they do!

    I do not love … The Time Machine. Just another old book that comes to mind that I hate. I hate The War of the Worlds even more, though. They’re both so ugly and sour and bleak. And also boring. Sorry, Mr. Wells. I don’t like you.

    Toddler is crazy so I can’t wrap this up well, but thanks for the great post!


    • Bailey Steger

      As a teenager, I stayed up to 3 AM on the bathroom rug reading Jane Eyre in one go. SUCH a good book! I haven’t read the other two, but I really, really want to read Anna Karenina before I die.

      I hate Wells’ writing too. Blech.


      • Allison Caylor

        Read Anna Karenina!! I tend to get kind of weird looks when I mention that being my favorite book… since it’s, you know, literally the story of a woman who leaves her husband. But it’s really, truly amazing, heart-renching, mind-stretching in a way that no other book I’ve read is. (And it enabled me to get through War and Peace later, for which I’m grateful.)

        That’s so neat that you loved Jane Eyre too. Now that I think about it, you have a lot in common with Jane. Analytical and philosophical, and intensely relational. I think I’m on to something there. :)


  7. Sharon

    Do you have any British novel recommendations? I’m just starting to get really into them. I’ve liked everything I’ve read by Jane Austen, and I just finished The End of the Affair by Graham Greene and liked that, too.


    • Bailey Steger

      Those are my top recommendations! I’ve read some of Evelyn Waugh’s and Virginia Woolf’s novels and liked them, though I studied them as opposed to read them and am not sure I recommend them as fun reading. I like Robert Galbraith’s murder mysteries, and the Hercule Poirot series, and Cressida Cowell’s children’s books.


  8. LisaDay

    Interesting. I am not certain what kind of books I love or hate as often it changes with how I am feeling at the time. I just read The Dark Angel and while the book was good, I found the characters’ lack of a moral compass painful. I agree with Anne Bogel: just because a book isn’t for you doesn’t mean it’s a bad book.


  9. Steph E

    I also love Anne Bogel!! Sometimes i just look through her recommendations… I am so excited to hunt up your reading list! And that’s what i love- figuring out why you like the books you like so you kind find more like them! :)


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