I have really strong feelings about being called my husband’s name. Marriage is supposed to be a partnership between two equals, not an absorption of the woman into the man. While calling a woman her husband’s name is just an etiquette rule, it’s based out of a patriarchal view that the husband is the head of the household and his wife is a representative of her husband more than she is her own self.
Charlie at Just Charlie, a fellow egalitarian and Christian feminist, featured my take on being called my husband’s name and why it bothers the heck out of me. I’d love for you to give it a read and let me know what you think — does being called by your husband’s name bother you as an egalitarian? Here’s the link: I Have a Name.
// I took an egalitarian spin on addressing wedding invitations too!