Welcome to Ezer

When I first used “egalitarian” in reference to myself, I looked around and saw almost no Christian willing to give an amen. I’m pretty sure only 2 out of my 691 Facebook friends identify as egalitarian. I might have been the first person in my circle of friends to say “feminist” without rolling my eyes.

Some issues, questions, and jokes don’t need the common ground of egalitarianism. But some do, especially when I’m wondering how marriage is supposed to work after reading only Created to Be His Helpmate spin-offs, or where to find an affordable swimsuit, or what happens if a female pastor gets pregnant. It gets exhausting and discouraging to drag myself back to the beginning and explain why Ephesians 5 doesn’t support complementarianism, how women’s bodies aren’t purely sexual, and that there’s historical and Biblical precedent for women leading and teaching men.

Sometimes, I need an egalitarian perspective on a practical issue. And sometimes, I want to discuss things other than gender, like theology, relationships, and what radio station to listen to on my morning commute. Now that I know what it means to be egalitarian, I want to live what it means to be human — body, heart, mind, and soul, make-up, heartbreak, news, and prayer.

That’s why I’m starting Ezer. There are many quality sites making the historical and exegetical argument for women’s full inclusion in the church and home (like this one, this one, this one, and this one). I read every post, and I’m going to write a few posts of my own on egalitarianism. But here, I want to also talk about meal planning and making friends, wake-up routines and prayer corners, bestsellers and personality types, with women who share similar views on what it means to be Christian and feminine.

Since the egalitarian community is small in my corner of the world, I’d love to create that community here, on this blog. Maybe you’re looking for an egalitarian community too? I’d love to hear about your search for an egalitarian community and what you’d be interested in discussing when you found one.

// Learn a little bit about me here and about the Ezer community here.

10 thoughts on “Welcome to Ezer

  1. Karen Wright

    So excited about this new blog. I want to encourage you that there are actually lots of Christian egalitarian women out there. Maybe because I live in Portland Oregon and go to a more progressive church and live with 5 other single, career-minded, over age 25 ladies it feels more normal to me. You inspire me to start blogging again, honestly…I have changed so much even in the last year and because my mom reads my blog I hesitate to write openly and honestly about exactly my thoughts on God, the church, and where I’m at right now. Even though my immediate community really supports my inquisitive, questioning ways, I’m not sure my peripheral community (made up of a lot of people from my past or people in the church) would support it. But there are so many questions that need to be asked, so many issues that need to be talked through in community. And even though my community is supportive, not many of them “get” what a huge, HUGE journey it is for me, having come from the fundamentalist christian community of my youth. The background of fundamentalism creates unique problems and questions for those of us who have chosen to question everything. I look forward to seeing this community develop in the future. :)


    • Bailey Steger

      You are the exact kind of woman I hoped I’d find through this blog! Everything you wrote, I could have written. I left my old blog, with that peripheral fundamentalist community, to start this one because I was afraid I couldn’t ask the questions I needed to ask in that space. Just wait — all of my diciest questions are sitting in my drafts folder. I can’t wait to hear your thoughts on them. :)


  2. heather

    It is hard when your friends haven’t evolved in their religious beliefs like you have. My Facebook feed is full of conservative Christian from what I call my misspent youth. It is good to find your tribe where ever you can.


    • Bailey Steger

      Heather, I’m glad to have you on board this tribe (totally mixing metaphors, but you get my point). I hope you can find some way to reconcile the freedom you’ve found now with your misspent youth. I know exactly what you mean!


  3. Erin Sibley

    Hello Bailey!
    I stumbled across your old blog oh, maybe 1.5 years ago? And kept reading, though I never commented on a post. I enjoyed your writing style then and still do! I grew up in a complimentarain family – an interesting version of the first end of the spectrum you described. My parents tried to fit a square peg into a round hole, so to speak, with my mom (a late in life Christian, still strong and independent and self sufficient) working to fit the mold of the submissive complementarian wife even when it wasn’t practical. In many ways, my parents are far more egalitarian than they like to think they are but nonetheless remain more complementarian in theIr marriage. All that is to say, like minded women like you exist! I am 26, just married 7 months to my childhood crush, living as a graduate student almost done with her engineering PhD….trying to balance my love of traditionally complementarian female habits and genuine appreciation for the heritage of my parents with my independent, free thinking, egalitarian beliefs when it comes to our marriage, my life, and my spiritual walk. Both my sister and I have seen the complementarian mindset play out, and both of us and our spouses want to strike a different balance in our marriages, one that is more true to our beliefs and reality.
    I look forward to reading your new blog and will hopefully comment more too :) -Erin


    • Bailey Steger

      I love your thoughtful perspective on marriage and complementarianism. As a newlywed myself, I completely understand the balance between respecting what our parents modeled for us (something good in many ways!) with, like you said, something “more true to our beliefs and reality.” I’m excited to hear your thoughts!


  4. Steph E

    Yay yay yay, I’m super excited for this!! Totally love the niche of ” okay what if I just want to read a decent article about marriage or talk about doing the dishes and not have to sift through all the rubbishy gender stereotypes and assumptions that are embedded in all that so often.” Just, yay!


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